Tweet ‘Home’ is probably one of the most emotionally charged words for a third culture kid. Is ‘home’ found in a place or a group of people? Is it one place, or many? Is it bricks and mortar, or something intangible – perhaps a feeling or a state of being? Most third culture kids and […]
Tweet “Girls should be modest and soft-spoken.” “Women make bad leaders.” “If a girl is too domineering, no man will want to marry her.” If you are from a very Western upbringing, such statements would probably shock you. However they are what I grew up with, in a culture where strong views of gender roles […]
Tweet Wow – I finally dropped back in to check this blog, and found a load of lovely comments! It’s great to know that people have been visiting even though I haven’t been It has been less than a year since my last blog update, but so much has changed that I feel light-years away […]
Tweet I wrote the pseudo-poem in blue below during a particularly dark mood. I think the darkness brought to surface questions that go on deep inside me about who I am. In that moment, I decided that I wouldn’t make my children TCKs (how long that decision will last, time only will tell :)) This […]
Which kind of TCK were you? Were you one that sunk yourself into every culture that you lived in. Or, like me, did you see the sojourn in your host culture as a mere interruption in real life?
This post is about regrets that come when I realised my Nigerian sojourn was, and is, an intrinsic part of my life.
To write or not to write honestly when times are tough?
Just linking to Widsith‘s article on abuse and TCKs. You can find it at http://widsith.wordpress.com/2009/09/04/all-gods-children-writing-and-watching/. It should be stressed that this is not what happened to all children at all boarding schools. Perhaps not even to the majority. My understanding is that it is difficult to collect statistics on this. But it did happen to […]
Tweet Memories, you say? Well, I have plenty. But they are mixed up and out of focus. Besides, they aren’t all for public viewing. Like the one of the verandah bordered by leafy trees where the teachers used to gossip. This was the scene of a childhood misdemeanor, and one of the few times my […]
I thought I had all the puzzle pieces, and then I went ‘home‘. That place is one of many I call, to some extent, by that name. When I went to that home, I discovered that perhaps not all of who I am, what I think, and how I feel, are because I am a […]
I have been re-reading the TCK book. Tonight, this bit of the TCK definition from Interaction International’s ‘The TCK Profile’ struck me afresh: ‘The TCK builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any.’ ‘Nuff said. For those who didn’t know, the TCK book is ‘Third Culture Kids: The Experience […]